The Duggars

OK… as I mentioned on ZW’s FB, I’m once again not sure what to do here. There are many things I want to get into, and back into. I want to start over on a few things, and a few people, lol. But there is always something new that I want to discus as well. And as I said, lately I  end up just not posting about anything… just waiting for those shoes.

But that’s not good, this is a blog… and I need to stop neglecting it. I don’t want it to end up like that creepy guy’s liar Vlog.

So while we wait for me to decide on the next post, I’ll get to a request of sorts.

Some of you may remember, last year when I explained how Cara had come back to read the blog to see if I had posted on Ferguson. At the time I had been contemplating writing a post on all that was going on there, but was struggling with it. And we all know that although I said I would try to get through that post and actually get it posted, I did not.

The reasons for this I have mentioned a little before, part was the way the story grew and changed, I didn’t want to write something prematurely. It seemed witnesses were lying on both sides of the case… and many remembered wrong or were not even there, so it makes it hard to know exactly what happened in those last moments when Brown charged the officer even though there seemed to be hundreds of accounts of it. Remember, at this point Brown had already been shot at least twice, had lost a lot of blood, and may definitely not have been in a good frame of thinking or understanding what was happening to him. I have questions about how it went down, but it seems you can’t trust anyone to just get to the point of the matter or speak the truth on such things, it’s just either he had his hands up and that doesn’t sit right with the autopsy results or he charged the officer wanting to kill him. And again I stress, that so much of the eyewitness reports contradicts each other and the facts. Plus there is the question of that witness #40, if I did do a Ferguson post I promise you, witness #40 would be who I blogged about mainly, that is the part that really makes me go WTF? By the way, Hannity on Fox news loved to quote Witness #40… so I’m sure my post would have become a rant on that dueche bag and what good would that do? I mean the world knows Hannity is a dueche bag.

It is obvious that you never get into a fight with a police officer who is still sitting in their car, I would never even get close to the window of a police car, sorry but fuck that.

So that part of the confrontation seems to be where most people base their decisions (ok, maybe not most, but definitely anyone who has any common sense, cause from there on, it all goes wrong on all sides, and again I say someone suffering from gunshots and blood loss running away and then charging, may have felt afraid for their lives and was trying to protect it and “survive” at that point, much as the officer said he felt when Brown reached into his car.

Can you see the struggles I had with it? How confusing such a post would become? There are 2 sides here. No scratch that, 3 sides.

The side of someone who feels treated badly by the system and police in general, who do treat many like criminals instead of human beings as a rule. We have the side of LE, who have to deal with the worst of situations all the time, and treating someone like a human instead of a criminal could get you killed. And we have those of us on the outside who manage to stay out of LE’s way for the most part, but have definite opinions in favor or against one of these other 2 sides. When in reality both sides are valid and need to be discussed and understood if we are to change what is going on in any way.

So yea, what point would it be for me to struggle through the post when really all I want to say is fuck you Hannity, you God-Damned dueche bag!

Alright, before everyone starts screaming WTF does this have to do with the Duggars… I’m getting to it.

So the other day F1-Girl asked me if I was gonna do a post on The Duggars and “19 Kids and Counting”. Just like when Cara asked about a Ferguson post, I had been struggling with doing a post on The Duggars when F1-Girl asked me about it. And they are similar struggles as with the Ferguson post, well sort of. In fact I told F1-Girl I probably wouldn’t be doing a post and instead we discussed it and I put out all my points and why I didn’t want to try to attempt a post about it.

Yet as you see by the title, I am going to attempt it.

But first I want to once again explain my word Hypo-Crites.

We are all hypocrites in some way. I explain my own hypocrisies by saying I’m a contradiction. I hate humanity but love it at the same time. I am against abortion, and hate how easily it is used in this day and age, but also strongly oppose it being made illegal or it not being covered by insurance and healthcare help type programs, including the christian and catholic ones. I’m not gonna get into a long discussion on how or why feel I this way, any more than I’m gonna get into a discussion on how I can watch a boxing match even though I find the whole thing barbaric and sad sometimes and don’t want to enjoy someone taking the chance of brain damage for my entertainment (yea, I didn’t get to the whole fight post either, and that was because I’m just not ready to discus my own hypocrisies yet, though here I am doing it, I also didn’t write the “Fight Post” because it would have gone into Mayweather’s domestic abuse, and opening that can of worms so close to Mother’s Day just didn’t seem right to me, yes some important post never get made).

So yes, I like everyone else have many different biases. Yes, we all can be bigots of some sort. We should know that about ourselves and strive to change our hypocrisies when possible and at very least try to understand where they come from or why we have them.

But there are those who can’t see any of this, and in fact do not find their beliefs bigoted or biased at all. From the Christians who believe in “eye for an eye” over “turn the other cheek” any day of the week. Or any religious person who doesn’t support food and healthcare for the poor, sick, and needy.  There are people who still think slavery was a good thing or that the color of their skin makes them superior in some way.  There are those out there who go out of their way to stop others from having the same rights as them.

Homophobes and racists… religious nuts and righteous wrong doers.

These are what I call the Hypo-Crites. A tribe that will not grow and learn with the rest of the tribes as we bring the tribes together.  It actually comes from a book I was writing (and never finished) when I was in my early twenties. I didn’t have a name for it, it was the story of a group o of supernatural beings that were a lot like the group of lost boys both in “Peter Pan” and in “Lost Boys”. Their leader was the oldest male being on our planet and was the product of  the rape of mother nature by 2 battling forces of good and evil  (both male) that landed on our planet in the beginning of time. (I really stole the idea from Clive Barker’s “Great And Secret Show”)

So anyways, this bastard child of Mother Nature is the one who populates the world and is the father of humanity in a way. But in the time of my story he has a small group of guys and they live in a sort of hidden Garden of Eden, the last of what the world was like in the time of Mother Nature,  you  learn in time that mother nature died while giving birth to not one, but 2 children. Yes there is a brother. But that comes later in the story, when we get to another story of good vs evil (I used to love to make up epic stories on this subject. Much like our ancestors). The story starts as a tale of a God like group of man-childs, who go around doing outrageously evil as well as outrageously good (seen as miracles by most who experience them) to keep the balance in the world. A world they call “land of the Hypo-Crites”.

Wow, I’m getting way off topic, more than usual I would say. And I’m a little worried about someone stealing my story… out of all the books I almost wrote, that story is my favorite. The ideas I had for it are both beautiful and drastically morbid. Yes, a core idea of the so-called contradictions that haunt me.

Wow, over 1500 words and still not on topic yet, gotta get focused here…

Anyways (I use that segue, way too much), Hypo-Crites would stay with me and become my way to describe a sort of super hypocrite, which I guess was all I had to say.

So, on to the Hypo-Crites otherwise known as The Duggars:

Like I said, I struggled with the idea of blogging about the Duggars, and that is mainly because we don’t really know what Josh Duggar really did. It is described as “over the clothes molestation” or “forced fondling”.  And if this is true, well then it could be a lot for nothing. Kids experiment in strange ways if they don’t have the proper understanding of the sexual feelings they get while growing up.

Most of you are probably not to happy with what I just wrote, F1-Girl didn’t exactly agree either, which is why I didn’t want to write this post.

But since I am writing it, let me try to explain. If this was a more serious molestation, (yes I know how that sounds, deal with it or stop reading, or just yell at me in the comments, in fact I prefer that to the stop reading choice) then it would be easy to cry in outrage and say that this was handled wrong or that Josh may have some severe issues he needs to deal with. If he had been caught instead of coming to his parents confused about his feelings and actions, or if the sisters came out years later saying what happened to them, I’d be able to write a post I’m sure we’d all agree on and it would not be a struggle at all. But this could just be a case of bad parenting and child curiosity.

Josh went to his parents several time before they dealt with it, and they dealt with it by putting it in God’s hands instead of a realistic sexual education the boy may have needed to know and understand his sexual feelings and urges. I also think that growing up in such a large, close family might have been part of why it happened like this and that Josh’s actions might not be so alien as we all think they are.

When I was in 5th grade, during recess, all of the boys in our class ran around smacking the butts of our female class mates, and they ran giggling from us. It was a weird sexual tag that if was done today, I’m sure there would be expulsions and cries of molestation or “forced fondling” and in a way it was. But as I said the girls were a part of it and they didn’t say anything to the teacher nor ask us to stop, we were all wrapped up in sexual urges we didn’t understand and our parents didn’t know how to explain them so we ran around smacking girls asses. So maybe Josh and those like him in big, close, dare I throw in, overly religious families might end up in such experiences and therefore are not sexual deviance but natural child curiosity and sexual awakenings of kids who don’t have kids their own age and not in the family to experiment with or learn from.

Man why didn’t I just not write this…

I hope I didn’t piss to many people with good intentions into thinking I am OK with people molesting children. If this had been an adult, I’d be calling for castration, and I don’t find that hypocritical in any way, just the reality. And as I said, if this turns out that there is much more to what Josh did, or if it continued as he got older, then everything I wrote is wrong and the guy is sick individual who needs to be off the street for the safety of other children.

Enough with what is difficult about it, let’s get to the “Hannity” part of it or should I say the “Megyn Kelly” part of it. (LOL, did you see what I did there?) Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar are scary to watch, always have been for me, even before I knew about any of this. When I would catch their show “19 Kids and Counting” I would cringe sometimes (like I did many times in that Megyn Kelly interview). Something was just not right about them in my opinion. And the fact that they still want to spill ignorant views on people they do not know after all they have been through disgusts me.

It just bothers me when people with their own issues strike out at others. Worry about your own, which they did… I guess. Took care of it real good… “hush-hush and make a TV show about how great our family is even though we have way to many children to actually give the attention to each one needed, not to mention our religious beliefs have our family values all screwed up and we’d rather tell out children to pray than to actually help them understand what they might be going through”. Very judgemental statement, huh?  Well, every time this family opens their mouth to discus transgender equality and how they stand against it because they think they are child molesters and sick people, makes me want to judge right back. I know it’s wrong. But I can’t help it, I have bigoted issues myself. I said that, right?

Well, there ya go F1-Girl. I wrote it.

Bottom line, they are right, it was 12 years ago, it was dealt with, and it is none of our business. It’s sad that a minors sealed records would be exposed for what comes down to probably political purposes (yes the liberals can be just as bad as those conservatives).

That doesn’t mean the Duggar’s aren’t bad parents and are definitely Hypo-Crites who do not need to be on TV spewing their toxic beliefs. Keep it in the family, we know you know how to do that.

And don’t forget, all of this means nothing if Josh did more than what was reported or if it continued on into his adult life. Then, this post would be much, much different.

But the real bottom line is someone is probably gonna steal my version of “Lost Boys” and write a best seller. If this happens, when I open that book I better see the words:

“Special Thanks To Zero, Without Him This Book Wouldn’t Exist”